Yes, it’s been a while I texted but no response.  I check my phone a number of times, still nothing.  Then the game starts, mind jumps to the conclusion that he/ she isn’t interested in me anymore, or that he/she can’t text because busy they are hanging out with someone else—even if things have been going great?

This is the normal scenario for dating in 2023, these are the fresh challenges and triggers of present dating. slow fade, catfishing, poor communication skills, and lack of clarity all leading to anxiety and an anxious attachment style.

An anxious mind can never be fit for dating. No matter how implacably one is dressed, how rich the ambiance of a restaurant is, how delicious the food is, if you’re prone to insecurity in your relationships, it will reflect in the way how you relate to others.

To enjoy dating or go through it, it’s important to know oneself. If you are suffering from anxious attachment style, need to be conscious of yourself. Being anxiously attached is not a crime , one doesn’t have to feel guilty for it , but developing an awareness of it will help you feel more grounded and confident in your romantic pursuits.

The anxiously attached individual has an intense need for acceptance, it can easily lead to chronic people-pleasing behaviours. This can have real consequences for mental health when the fear of rejection overpowers the ability to love yourself or recognize your own needs.

Best way to deal with it.

Be aware of your attachment style

Regulate your behaviour.

Learn how to express your emotions

And relax take it easy. It’s love not a battle. You are bound to win someone.